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Welcome to my spiffy new journal; something I never thought I'd return to after my LiveJournal era lo' those many years ago. Dreamwidth was my LJ backup and it was forgotten when the FB was born. I admit, searching through all the journal design pages on this site flooded me with memories.

"This design still exists? Oh, I remember loving that one. Oooo, this one is new."

I had a plethora of user pics, customized mood themes, and enough HTML coding practice to make my LJ or DW my own.

This time around I'm keeping it simple and chose "timeofgrey".

It's a play on the saying "Time of Day" because I am in the Time of Grey in my life. Not necessarily because of age, but because of experience.

Grey is liminal. Grey is strength. Grey is mystery. Grey is where I thrive.
It's the fog on a winter morning or the color of the stormy ocean waves. It's the color of my eyes, my hair, and my queerness.

Grey is also Silver: inspiring, reflective, enlightening.

This journal will be hybrid in that it'll be public and Friends Only posts. If it's the latter, I will mark it as such at the beginning of the post and request that it not be shared. Period.

The reason for me moving back to my old school journaling grounds is it was time. With FB implementing AI into their ToS effective January 1st (one cannot opt-out) and the incoming administration, I felt that was my cue to exit stage left. Fifteen plus years of social media shares of memories, pics, and memes will dissolve into the ether and I'm okay with that. I was able to make new friends and connect with others long before that Twinkie of social media came into existence.

I say "Twinkie" because I realized lately how unfulfilling it is. Doomscrolling at its finest. Whereas with BlueSky, I get a heartier meal thanks to my customized feeds, ban hammers, and up to date current events. I am in control of how I experience BlueSky, not some billionaire with algorithms.

What will be a change is the lack of smartphone use. FB was easy in where I could open the app and post whatever the hell was on my mind. I can do that with bsky, but for here, I will need to make a productive effort to use my desktop computer and write. As weird as it sounds, I enjoy that idea. Very back-to-basics, less instant gratification.

Welcome to my haunted place.
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An excerpt from my personal journal dated 12/31/2024:

"FB has become so integrated in society, like a parasite convincing us we need it to breathe, we don't really question it. I noticed this today, my first full day without FB. The urge to fill up boredom with Scrolling for Dooooom was strong. Holy shit, its withdrawal. However this time instead of finding a social replacement, I do a quick read of BlueSky and write in my journal. Definitely more enriching."

We're now into day three without that constant social engineering of wanting Likes. Not gonna lie, it hasn't been easy; it's the equivalent of giving up something you crave like soda or chocolate or CARBS. There's a tug to get onto your phone to see what other people think of you and your post. Or maybe there's a lull in the movie you're watching and rather then pressing fast-forward, you grab your phone to scroll.

I have friends who barely use FB. Accounts are active, but they're rarely on and they live friend-filled, social lives. You know, like we did when we were kids and young adults. Or before 2007. LOL

FB has become such an easy and lazy way to keep in touch it's become the one-stop social cafe. But I'm over here now at this other cafe across the street and when I decided to delete my account, I was afraid I'd loose tons of connections. I'm relieved to report that out of the 225 "friends, friends of friends, friends of friends of friends", roughly 60 of them reached out. Some even confirmed phone and email address.

You have no idea how this warms my little cryptid heart.

What began as an impressive and fun social experiment has become over the last six years or so, a plague of advertising, bots, deceptive algorithms, and recently AI. It's not about connecting anymore, it's about engaging and enraging for profit. We are the product. Yes, we were the product back in 2007, but they don't bother hiding it anymore and they've ramped up the bullshit.

I loved Facebook when it worked. When I could see my friends posts IN CHRONOLOGICAL ORDER IN REAL TIME. I loved the groups.

FB is different for each person, but for me, it became a toxic relationship I didn't see. And because I didn't see it, I didn't leave. Until now.
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Dreamwidth may not have a fancy little app, but after exploring their FAQs in regards to uploading images, I came upon their ability to post from emails.

This is awesome. If I'm out and about and want to share, I can just use the Gmail app on my phone and post to DW. A bit of a scenic route, sure, but maybe better as I don't have to download yet ANOTHER app onto my phone.

So here I am. Being all testy McTesterton testing the test.

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I recently came upon an old blog post circa 2015 that discussed the Twelve Days of Christmas. These would be days of December 26th through January 6th and how in some cultures folks would do daily omen readings for the new year to come. Some would do augury, others tarot, or whatever divination system they preferred.

As one who does divination heavily with tarot and oracle decks, I've opted to stretch my skills and do Nature augury. Technically "augury" is the divination by birds; I love it as I'm rather akin to my fine feathered friends. However, I'll be expanding the definition to include all of Nature to make it simpler for journaling purposes.

12/26 for January
During my walk I made up an impromptu prayer for the Mighty Kindreds to show me the omen of January. Then I paid attention. Waited for whatever grabbed my attention. This did not occur until towards the end of my walk when after all the rain, the clouds unexpectedly parted and the sunlight beamed through. I was in awe.

If you witnessed such a sight, what would it mean to you?
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One month until the shit storm arrives. What have you done to prepare for it?

If you're a queer, morally bankrupt, marginalized woke culture ass wagon liberal like myself, you've been battening down the hatches, stockpiling resources, and improving your personal safety. If you haven't started yet there's still time.

Do what's within your control and your pocketbook.

One of the biggest changes I'll be implementing is the deletion of my FB account on 12/30. With Meta ToS updates of AI and "all your shit belongs to us" that'll be force-implemented on January 1st, plus the Zuck bending the knee to the DickTaterTot, I figured it was time to exit.

Kinda blows against the advice of "keep your connections, community, and friends closer" right? It's a scary thought -- deleting 15+ years of pics, memes, conversations, all the local events, and Life Moments/Announcements. But on some level I'm okay with it because I remember how life was before that doom-scrolling, social monstrosity was created.

Thankfully we have the technology! There are other places to connect online that are not controlled by overly emotional billionaires.

Since I've posted my announcement on leaving, out of the 225 friends:
4 have added me to Dreamwidth
35 on Bluesky
1 on Signal

To be honest, this was more than I estimated and it makes me smile. These folks want to keep our connection going outside of the ease of FB.

A few have expressed how much they'll miss me and my content, but will not be following me elsewhere.

As social media experiments go, this experience is proving that although FB says I have 225 friends, in reality it's more like 40-60. And I get that. A good portion are cool acquaintences or friends of friends or folks I met through the fandom pages. The ones making the effort to keep in touch I either know IRL or we've been online mates since way back in the day (I'm looking at you LJ).

It'll be an adjustment and I feel it'll be better for me. The time I would waste doom scrolling I can put to better use by writing and catching up on my To Be Read pile.

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